It's no big secret that I'm a huge fan of the tv show NCIS. Abby, Tony, Ziva, I love hanging out with them. In a strange sorta way.... Anyways, I got a good friend of mine hooked on the show. I made her start at the first season and go through them in order, because I'm just a good friend like that. It's been funny watching her reactions to new developments in the plot that I've already seen 5 times. There's this Mossad Israeli gal who is a kicking-butt, taking-names, no-nonsense tough gal. I absolutely love her. She's tough, she's strong and she can handle herself. But my friend cannot stand her, because of "her attitude". That's not the first time my friend has commented on a gal having a bad attitude. Not the whiny kinda "diva" attitude, but a tough kinda attitude. For some reason, she sees that as being a negative thing. And I realized that, since I've had many people tell me I act just like Kate and Abby from NCIS (whom my dear friend has also criticized because of their attitudes), my friend probably thinks *I* have an attitude. I said as much (we're best friends, so we speak our mind. in a tactful way...I try not to purposefully pick fights) and she wouldn't give me a straight answer. Replying "lol :)" to a direct question is not an answer, girl! Being the nice, sweet, quiet girl that she is, she's agreeing by not disagreeing.
Is having an attitude a bad thing? I don't see myself having a bad attitude.... Maybe on those days when I'm tired and crabby and being suffocated under a semi-truck load worth of homework, yes. But in general, no. I get FAR more compliments on my attitude than complaints. I'll be the first to admit, I break the mold when it comes to personality and attitude. I'm a rebel, fiercely independent and I don't like having my style cramped. I run in a lot of circles. I'm the homeschooled daughter of a Southern Baptist preacher. I play poker (I have a mean poker face at 5 card draw), design tattoos (I have needle phobia though, so they're just ink and paper designs) and listen to rock music. I play piano at church, and for Christmas I canned 2 dozen jars of homemade jam to give away. (I'm getting better about "yes maam" and "yes sir", it was never made a habit for me growing up so I'm MAKING it a habit now.) I ride colts, rodeo, and was recently crowned County Fair Queen. I spent New Years playing cards until midnight with several couples-all over 50-who attend our local biblestudy. I work right alongside guys while we're shipping cattle, doctoring calve, working colts, whatever. I rock my blingy Adiktd jeans and high top boots. I hate admitting I'm wrong, and I hate asking for help. I have attitude! At the same time, I love my parents (yes, really), I have a rock solid faith in Jesus Christ and I love helping people out. I'm known as a "good girl". I also have a backbone and opinions that I will fight tooth and nail for. I once had a 14 year old guy pinned against the side of a 15 passenger van with one finger (the pressure point under the chin works wonders). We're good friends now, by the way. So what's the deal? Is the attitude bad? Is it just a redneck/ranch girl thing? {I'm gonna do some major generalization here and match up "groups" with "opinions". No offence meant to anyone, I'm just organizing my thoughts.} The Baptist/homeschooled group says I should be wearing floral-print jumpers, staying inside taking care of babies, and being meek and docile. The fair/rodeo group says I should be wearing too-tight spaghetti strap tank tops, talking trash and kissing every boy who will stand still long enough. Who am I gonna please? I have to fit in, right? (wrong) So which group am I gonna pick? I'm not popular, but I have friends who love me no matter what. I have friends I've had to let go because they didn't understand who the real me was. I've had friends try to change me into something I'm not.
So this year, I decided...
I'm gonna be me. Attitude and all. And THAT...is attitude.
Seriously though, I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. From a Christian perspective, from a guy's perspective, from a parent's perspective, whatever.
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4 beloved comments:
Love it! be the best you only you can be, because there's noone else like you! I'm a 35 yr old farmers wife who stays home to work the farm/cattle and spoil two babes. I am opinionated about my loves/passions. I don't like to admit I'm wrong and seldom do.
I wear what's comfy to me not what everyones wearing. Typically, my tuffs; boots/tennis shoes/muck boots and my fav t's with a long john shirt or sweatshirt. I'm not glamorous, but I'm comfortable in my own skin. And that's what's important.
Do what makes you happy and the people around you will love you for you!
Be yourself it's all you can be. I've also been where you've been friends see me as not feminine enough. While classmates cannot believe I'm not like the majority of girls on the planet go figure. I discovered I can only be myself and who God wants me to be. It's all about Him, His opinion is all that matters. I cannot please everybody and I am not even going to try.
Carissa
Sounds good! My only thing would be (and I'm not saying that yours doesn't) that your attitude please and honor God. But God made everyone different, so yeah, just be who God made you to be. Attitude and all.
Sarah
I hear you on the Not Like Anyone Else thing--for example my best friend in High School was the ex-Air Force Physics teacher. I always say it's being a Subconscious Non-conformist. I don't mean to be hard to fit in to any one demographic--it's just the way I am. Always got around it with just a touch of a "screw you" attitude. As Richard Feynman said "What do you care what other people think," or as Red Green always says, "It's not smart, or correct, but it's one of the things that makes us who we are."
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